“Jesus said to his disciples: “Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come” (Luke 17:1).
The Spiritual Consequences of Offense
One of the most dangerous aspects of offense is how it blinds us to its own presence. Those who are offended often believe they are justified in their anger. They see themselves as victims, wronged by others, and fail to recognize the spiritual danger that lurks within. This blindness leaves them vulnerable to bitterness, which can harden hearts and hinder spiritual growth.
Bitterness is not only destructive to the individual but also to the community. When we allow bitterness to grow, it spreads like wildfire, infecting those around us. Families are torn apart, friendships are severed, and even churches suffer division. This is why the Bible places such emphasis on the need to forgive and to guard our hearts. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
The Importance of Forgiveness
Years ago, I faced a situation where someone deeply offended me. The hurt was real, and the temptation to hold on to that offense was strong. But as I wrestled with my feelings, I realized that holding on to offense only imprisoned me further. Forgiveness was not just a choice—it was a necessity. If I had refused to forgive, the root of bitterness would have taken hold in my heart. It would have spread its poison and robbed me of peace.
Forgiveness is not easy, but it is liberating. It is the key that unlocks the prison of offense and allows us to move forward in freedom. Jesus’s teachings are clear on this matter: You should forgive other people when they sin against you. Then your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matthew 6:14-15).
Forgiveness does not mean that we condone wrongdoing or that we forget the offense. Rather, it is an act of releasing the offender from our judgment and entrusting them to God’s hands. It is a declaration that we will not allow the offense to control our lives. We refuse to let it rob us of our joy.
Preparing for Offenses
Jesus made it clear that offenses are inevitable in this world. Yet, many believers are caught off guard when they occur. They are shocked, hurt, and bewildered, incapable of comprehending why they have been wronged. This response leaves them vulnerable to the enemy’s schemes. So, we must be prepared and armed for offenses, knowing that our response will determine our future.
How, then, can we prepare? First, by recognizing the inevitability of offense. When we understand that offenses are a part of life, we are less to be blindsided by them. Second, by guarding our hearts through prayer, scripture, and community. Immersing ourselves in God’s Word equips us with the wisdom and strength needed to navigate difficult situations. Surrounding ourselves with a supportive community of believers provides encouragement and accountability.
Finally, we must cultivate a spirit of humility and grace. Offense often arises from pride—the belief that we deserve better treatment, more recognition, or greater respect. Humility allows us to let go of these expectations and extend grace to others, even when they fall short.
Walking in the Light
As we learn to overcome offense, we position ourselves to walk in the light of God’s glory. Isaiah 60:1 proclaims, “Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord rises upon you.” When we release offense, we reflect the love of Christ to a hurting world. We forgive others and guard our hearts to show Christ’s grace.
The spirit of offense is a powerful tool in the enemy’s arsenal. Nevertheless, it does not have to hold us captive. By recognizing its dangers, forgiving those who wrong us, and preparing our hearts, we can break free from its grip. Let us choose to walk in the light. This allows the glory of the Lord to rise upon us. It brings healing to our relationships, our communities, and our nation.
May the love of Christ shine through us, bringing hope, healing, and transformation to those around us. Amen.
Minister A. Francine Green
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