Understanding and Overcoming the Trap of Offense
Let’s face it: at some point in life, every one of us will feel offended. Maybe someone says something hurtful, lets us down, or does something we think is unfair. Jesus himself warned that “things that cause people to stumble are bound to come.” (Luke 17:1) In other words, offense is unavoidable. The real question is, how do we deal with it?
What Does It Mean to Be Offended?
Being “offended” is more than just feeling hurt. It’s like falling into a trap. When we take offense, we let ourselves dwell on what was done to us. This leads to negative emotions like anger, bitterness, jealousy, and even hatred. And if we’re not careful, these emotions can poison our relationships and our peace of mind.
Why Is Freedom from Offense Important?
The trouble with offense is that it destroys from the inside out. Offended people often end up isolated, angry, or distrustful. Relationships break down. Communities, families, even nations can suffer division. Instead of living with joy and kindness—the “fruits of the Spirit” like love, peace, patience, and goodness—we harvest a crop of pain and bitterness.
How Do We Get Free from Offense?
First, recognize the warning signs. Sometimes, we don’t even realize we’re offended. We just know we’re stuck, replaying the hurt in our minds. This is exactly what the enemy wants. The devil’s goal is to keep us focused on ourselves and our hurts so we miss out on God’s greater plan for our lives.
The Bible encourages us to “be alert and of sober mind.” We have a spiritual enemy who sets traps of offense to stop us from growing. But we don’t have to fall for them.
Some Practical Steps:
· Ask yourself: Am I holding onto something someone did or said?
· Pray and ask God to show you any hidden offense in your heart.
· Choose to forgive. Forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending nothing happened—it means letting go for your own sake.
· Remember that everyone faces hurt and disappointment, but how we respond is what shapes our future.
Why Now More Than Ever?
In times of chaos or uncertainty, it’s easy for offense to spread. People are on edge, tempers are short, and misunderstandings happen. But if we let offense take root, it can destroy families, friendships, and even nations. The only way to break free is to let God heal our hearts and help us forgive.
Final Thoughts
Offense is a trap that we all face, but we don’t have to stay stuck in it. Instead, by letting go, forgiving, and focusing on love and kindness, we can be free to live the life God intended for us. Let’s not let offense be the thing that holds us back. Let’s choose freedom, for ourselves and for those around us.
Minister A Francine Green
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