How Our Speech Can Build Up or Break Down
Words are powerful. The Bible makes this clear again and again. What we say can either help and encourage others or cause harm and division. Let’s break down, in simple terms, what the Bible teaches about the power of our speech.
Destructive Speech: What to Avoid
· Gossip and Slander: The Bible warns strongly against talking badly about others behind their backs. Spreading rumors or saying things that damage another person’s reputation is not just hurtful—it’s considered harmful in God’s eyes. Proverbs 16:28 puts it simply: “A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.” In other words, gossiping can ruin relationships and cause fights, even among people who were once close.
· Lying and Deceit: The Bible says God loves truth and hates lies. Proverbs 12:22 says that “lying lips are detestable to the Lord.” Telling the truth builds trust, while lying breaks it down and leads to trouble.
· Harsh and Angry Words: Losing our temper and speaking harshly can make bad situations worse. The Bible encourages us to speak gently, even when we’re upset. A soft answer can calm things down, while harsh words make things explode.
· Foolish Talk and Corrupt Communication: Ephesians 4:29 says we shouldn’t let any “corrupting talk” come out of our mouths. That means avoiding dirty jokes, mean comments, or careless words that might hurt others or lead us astray.
· The Tongue’s Destructive Power: The Bible uses strong images for the tongue, calling it a “sharp razor” and “deadly poison.” In other words, what we say can do real, lasting damage if we’re not careful.
Edifying Speech: What to Aim For
· Build Each Other Up: Instead of tearing people down, the Bible tells us to encourage and support them. Ephesians 4:29 says our words should help others and fit the moment, giving grace to those who hear them.
· Be Honest and Truthful: Telling the truth is more than just not lying—it’s about being trustworthy and sincere in how we speak.
· Speak with Gentleness and Kindness: Kind words can calm anger and bring peace. The Bible encourages us to be gentle, especially when things get tense.
· Show Restraint and Wisdom: Sometimes, the best thing to say is nothing at all. The Bible says that when we talk too much, we’re more likely to say something we’ll regret. Wisdom means knowing when to speak and when to stay quiet.
Takeaway: Words Matter
The overall message is simple: our words have real consequences. If we use them carelessly, we can hurt others and damage relationships. But if we choose our words wisely—speaking honestly, kindly, and with patience—we can help, heal, and make a real difference in people’s lives.
Proverbs 16:28 reminds us just how damaging gossip can be: it can break up even the closest of friends. That’s why the Bible urges us to avoid gossip and troublemaking, and instead focus on words that bring people together.
Practical Steps
· Think before you speak—ask yourself if your words will help or hurt.
· Refuse to join in gossip or rumor-spreading.
· If you make a mistake and say something hurtful, apologize and make it right.
· Look for ways to encourage others every day.
· When in doubt, choose kindness and honesty.
In short, the Bible teaches that words are not just sounds—they’re powerful tools. Use them to build, not break. Speak life, not destruction.
Minister A Francine Green
August 2025
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