Understanding How Our Words Matter
Why Name-Calling Is a Big Deal
Let’s be honest: these days, name-calling is everywhere—arguments online, playground fights, even grown-ups in the workplace. But did you know that calling someone a mean name isn’t just bad manners? According to the Bible, it’s actually a serious problem.
What Does the Bible Teach About Name-Calling?
The Bible is pretty clear: what comes out of our mouths reflects what’s going on in our hearts. If we’re calling people names or using harsh words, it shows anger or bitterness inside us—and that’s something God wants us to fix.
Matthew 5:22 is especially direct. Jesus says that being angry with someone, insulting them, or calling them “fool” is so serious it’s compared to breaking one of the Ten Commandments (“You shall not murder”). In fact, Jesus warns that these things can lead to being judged—even by God!
Ephesians 4:29 says we should only say things that build people up, not tear them down. Proverbs 12:18 says reckless words are like sword thrusts—they hurt! And Proverbs 11:9 warns that people can destroy each other with their words, but those who follow God help others instead.
Why Does It Matter What We Say?
Name-calling isn’t just a “kids’ problem.” The Bible says slander and insults are the mark of someone who isn’t trustworthy. Words can reveal what’s really in our hearts. If we’re always putting others down, it’s a sign we need to work on our own attitudes.
What Should We Do Instead?
The Bible encourages us to:
· Be kind and gentle, even when it’s hard.
· Forgive others instead of holding onto anger.
· Use our words to help, not hurt.
· Have conversations that are thoughtful and full of grace (Colossians 4:6).
Going Deeper: More Than Just Words
Jesus teaches in the Sermon on the Mount that it’s not enough just to avoid physical violence. Contempt, anger, and cruel words are just as serious. He uses the example of “Raca” (an old insult meaning “worthless”) and “fool” to show that these aren’t harmless—they’re hurtful and can have spiritual consequences.
How Can We Change?
It starts with self-examination and being honest about our own words. If we hurt someone, the Bible calls us to make things right as soon as possible. That means apologizing, making peace, and using our words to show love instead of hate.
Bottom Line
In a world where name-calling is common, the Bible challenges us to do better. Our words matter. They can build up or destroy, heal or hurt. The challenge isn’t just to “be nice,” but to truly care for others—and let that show in everything we say.
So, next time you’re tempted to call someone a name, remember: it’s not just about being polite. It’s about showing the love, respect, and kindness that God calls us to—one word at a time.
Minister A Francine Green
October 2025
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