Understanding the Challenge of Kindness in Today’s Society
Let’s be honest: America feels different lately. Everywhere you turn—social media, the news, even just walking down the street—people seem angrier, meaner, and less patient with each other. This “toxicity” isn’t just coming from strangers online; sometimes it’s our neighbors, coworkers, and even people who loudly say they follow Christ.
What Does “Toxic” Mean?
When we say someone is “toxic,” we don’t mean they’re literally poisonous. It means their words or actions make others feel bad, stressed, or hurt. Toxic people can be negative, rude, or even cruel—sometimes without realizing the impact they have. For many, this behavior has become normal and, unfortunately, they don’t seem ashamed of it.
Why Is This Happening?
· Social Media: It’s easy to hide behind a screen and say things you’d never say face-to-face. Online arguments can get ugly quickly.
· Stress and Uncertainty: Life feels more complicated with worries about jobs, health, and the world. When people are scared or stressed, they often lash out.
· Divisions: America is split on so many issues—political, cultural, and even religious. Instead of listening, people shout over each other.
· Loss of Empathy: Somewhere along the way, we forgot that everyone is fighting their own battles. Kindness gets lost in the rush.
What About Christians?
This might surprise some, but even those who openly say they follow Christ sometimes act just as toxic as everyone else. The Bible teaches love, patience, and forgiveness. Yet, in our culture, some people who claim to follow Christ use their faith to judge or hurt others instead of showing compassion. It’s important to remember that no one is perfect, but toxic behavior isn’t what Jesus taught.
What Can We Do?
· Pause Before Speaking: Think about how your words might affect someone else. Is it helpful or hurtful?
· Show Kindness: Even small gestures—like a smile or a kind word—can break the cycle of toxicity.
· Listen: Try to hear what people are really saying. Listening doesn’t mean agreeing, but it does mean respecting others.
· Reflect: If you claim to follow Christ, ask yourself if your actions reflect His teachings of love and forgiveness.
Final Thoughts
America doesn’t have to be toxic. We can choose to make things better, one person at a time. Let’s take a step back, remember what really matters, and treat each other with respect—whether online, in person, or anywhere else. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it.
Minister A Francine Green, April 2026
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